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Sibling Loss 🖤
Losing a sibling changes you… forever.
Whether it was sudden or slow, nothing about life looks the same after.
If you’re part of this club too—I’m so sorry 🤍
I’m creating episodes for Unfiltered Unhealed to honor the siblings we loved and lost. If you feel called to share, I would be honored to hold space for your story—raw, real, and completely on your terms (even anonymously).
Because they still matter. They will always matter.
Reach out if you’re ready 🖤
Pat is my little brother, three years and four days apart. My only sibling. My best friend and as siblings can be - my worst enemy.
More than anything though he was Pat Pat. He was the kind of person who would give a loved one the shirt off his back and his last drink of water without thinking twice. He could make you laugh in your worst moments, like it was his job to pull you out of it; regardless of what he was dealing with underneath. He was the best uncle, the kind who showed my girls what it looks like when a man really shows up. He could cook, build, fix anything and he carried a quiet pride in who he was, even when life got heavy.
He struggled with addiction from a young age, something that slowly started to attach to him by the end of the 90s, while he was still a child. In 2020, after a relapse, we lost him to an overdose. It was fentanyl.
No matter how much you think you’ve seen, nothing prepares you for losing your own sibling.
There are still periods of time that I can go through life normally, like I’m just waiting for him to come home from prison. However, grief doesn’t let you stay there. It shows up when seeing his daughter grow up without him. The moments I recognize mom getting older without her little King. The regret I feel for dad, unable to fix what addiction and “tough love” broke between them here on earth.
Hindsight after loss is strange. Pat struggled - bad. I miss my brother terribly. And I have a feeling the real moments of grief are yet to come.
But I am so grateful he is out of pain. And I do have full faith I will hug my brother again.
Forever “Pat’s Sister”
More Details:
Recording Tips (if you choose to record on your own):
• Use your phone’s Voice Memos (or similar app)
• Find a quiet space (closets work great for sound)
• Turn on airplane mode
• Set your phone 6–8 inches away (don’t hold it)
• Speak slightly past the phone, not directly into it
• Clap once before you start and leave ~5 seconds of silence
When you’re done, email your recording to me.
Record with Me
We can schedule virtual meetings or a simple phone call if you prefer to record with me.
Not Allowed:
• Excessive strong profanity throughout the recording.
• Hate speech, harassment, or targeting individuals/groups.
• Violent threats, incitement, or abusive language.
• Illegal or dangerous instructions.
General Guidelines:
• Recordings can be a minimum of 5mins and maximum of 30 mins per episode.
• You can record solo or have someone join you if that makes it easier.
• Don’t Forget To Complete & Sign The Release!
Submit your story
You can write and submit your story for someone else to read on your behalf. OR you can record it yourself and email it to me.